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Tired of Winter? I Am! (April Fool’s!)

I try to be happy and optimistic. But it’s been a challenging, snowy winter in New England. I’m feeling extra antsy today because we’ve had three, consecutive days of bleakness with non-stop rain. In fact, it’s snowing and sleeting as I write this. Unusual for March 31.

Another gray day!
Another gray day!

It could be worse though. In 1997, an April Fool’s Day Blizzard, from March 31 – April 1, dumped three feet of snow in our area. It was a mixture of snow, rain and sleet with gusts from 50 to 70 miles per hour. Public transportation stopped. Thousands of commuters and motorists were stranded. Hundreds of thousands lost power.

I checked the local weather report, and no blizzard is headed our way this April Fool’s Day. It’s predicted to be sunny and in the upper 40’s.

Hardy New Englanders braved that nasty blizzard 17 years ago. They inspired me — and I resisted the temptation to hide under my comfy blanket today! Instead, I grabbed my winter parka and summoned my trusty sidekick, Gus. Doesn’t he look excited?!

Gus, waiting patiently for his walk.
Waiting patiently for his walk.

We sprinted outside for an icy adventure.

There’s a saying, “face what you fear most.” Well, I don’t fear snow and sleet. It’s more of a ‘dislike.’ However, my ‘dislike’ this morning turned to sheer joy for my buddy, Gus. Leaving the house makes him ecstatic! And seeing him so happy, in turn, warms my heart. The ice has melted, leaving puddles of fun behind.

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Standing in a puddle, just for the heck of it.

Simple, small wonders abound.

Red Hot

Red Nikes
These stand out in a crowd.

Aren’t these shoes the cutest? I happened to be standing in a crowd at a college graduation recently and spotted them.

I disagree when people say women of a certain age should dress in a certain way. Maybe mothers-in-law should start a new trend and all sport red Nikes.  Would you wear these?

Check out Nike Shoes where you can custom build your shoes to your own personal style, colors and performance preferences.

Celebrate Every Day

Holidays, special occasions and observances are markers that add happy anticipation and predictability to our lives. Traditions are important, even more nowadays because technology is rushing forward at warp speed, making our lives chaotic and often stressful. Planning, hosting or attending an event requires us to shift gears. We are forced to slow down and just enjoy!

Graduation celebration for daughter-in-law

Opportunities for celebration abound. Think back to an experience that made you feel all warm and fuzzy inside! Was it a holiday like Thanksgiving or New Year’s Eve?  Was it the day you played Scrabble with your family?  Was it your grandchild’s graduation? Or was it that summer evening when you and your family sat on the back porch and gazed at stars?

A mother-in-law can be the pivot person to create a strong sense of family unity by celebrating old traditions and creating new ones. Special Days will feature important holidays and celebrations. We want to include your ideas too. How do you celebrate birthdays, graduations and other observances and make them special? How do you juggle conflicts like work, school, sports and other time-consuming commitments? It’s particularly challenging when family members are separated by long distances. But, mothers-in-law can overcome any barriers. They have the power to transform an ordinary moment into a memorable one with a simple gesture. It just takes a loving touch, a little imagination, and maybe a visit to Special Days!

Have Fun!

Remember that song, Girls Just Want to Have Fun! by Cyndi Lauper? Well, sometimes we mothers-in-law forget that we are girls who still want to have fun! We’re so bogged down with our professional and personal responsibilities and with our laundry list of family obligations that we dismiss our own needs.

We’re part of the sandwich generation, and that’s all the more reason to cut loose and have fun. We need to let off some steam! So, get going! Ignore those ingrained messages that say we’ve reached a certain age and therefore, it’s time to take a back seat. There’s a child within who is never too old or too rusty to play. We’ll blog about many ways to introduce joy in our lives – from fun ‘girl getaways,’ crazy pets and hobbies to a good book. We hope you’ll join in.

Girls getaway in Chicago: Mothers, Mothers-In-Law, Daughters, Daughters-In-Law

Try some new and enriching experiences — instead of narrowly focusing on family at the expense of everything else. Explore activities that are enjoyable, informative, creative and adventurous. Balance is key. We can still babysit the grandkids, but make time to go on a date with a spouse or significant other. If we don’t, we run the risk of morphing into one of those martyr mothers-in-law. You know the type – the ones who whine about all the sacrifices they make for their ungrateful kids. It’s a sure prescription for family friction.

So, enjoy your family life, but cherish your independence. The stereotype of the grasping, desperate mother-in-law, who ruminates about the comings and goings of daughters-in-law or sons-in-law, isn’t pretty. It’s annoying, and we’re not! We are interesting, passionate, strong women committed to having some fun.

Embrace new points of view!

Expand those social connections! If you want to meet a bunch of girlfriends for dinner, go for it! If you’ve dreamed of traveling, start saving for your trip today! If you want to expire spirituality, the Bible or the Torah, do it!  If you want to hip-hop or salsa dance, now’s the time!  Get that new puppy you’ve always wanted or start a knitting class!  What are you waiting for?

We’ll share lots of fun-filled suggestions that are economical and even free for the asking, right here.  It’s never too late to learn something new or to make lifelong friendships.  Tap into the resources available right here and have some Fun! Life is for living. Don’t just hope for happiness to find you. Go for it.